Rumors, Rumors,
Rumors
Rumors abound and the adoption
roller coaster is not immune to the rumors. Every program we have ever used has
been a host to the following rumors.
- The Country is closing because of all the problems.
- Someone is being investigated. I know this because I’ve
talked to them.
- Trafficking is A LOT more common than you think and in this country it is a REAL problem.
- My wait time is so much longer than their wait time. I
KNOW it’s increasing for everyone.
- They are very unethical (adoption agency, country, etc.), because…..
- The country is closing to singles.
- The number of children you can have, age between children, and just about everything IS changing. I was told this by an official in country.
Even in the most stable countries
and agency programs, many will state the above rumors as ABSOLUTE fact. This
is normal and this WILL drive you insane (smile). If you find yourself a member
of a group that dwells constantly in the negative, you may consider not reading/participating in it until your adoption is
complete. We are information hounds, yet even we did not participate in some
agency “call in” sessions because everyone was always panicking or attacking.
This was an EXCELLENT agency with a very good reputation as well.
None of us are our bests when we are under a lot of stress. Adoption
is wonderful, but unless you have the amazing gift of a very laid-back personality, adoption will have it’s periods of stress.
Yes, the above things DO
happen…but not as often as some think they do. We personally have heard
EVERY one of the above rumors! 99% of the time they were just that…rumors. You will often notice a few of the same people making “the waves” and
starting the rumors. Use discernment, live in prayer, investigate, but know that
rumors are a part of the adoption world and a TON of them never come to fruition….because, well…they’re
just rumors.
Rumors run through every
walk of life. Don’t let the rumors ruin this wonderful experience! When God is leading you…follow Him, not the rumors.
