Christians Marrying Unbelievers

When we are making decisions, God deals with us in two different ways. Before we decide, God deals with us in one way. After we decide, God deals with us in another way. If you are a Christian who wants to marry an unbeliever, you must first realize that the strongest yoke you can make on earth is the yoke of marriage. Once you tie the knot with the person God will acknowledge it as so and will expect you to stay with him or her until death.

The Bible tells as Christians we are told not to be unequally yoked together with unbelievers.
2 Cor. 6:14Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? 15 What harmony is there between Christ and BelialB? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? 16 What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God.
1 Cor. 7:39 A woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to marry anyone she wishes, but he must belong to the Lord. (The same applies
to the man)
 

Lets take a look at another scripture which will shed more light on this.
Deut. 22:10 Do not plow with an ox and a donkey yoked together.

1.  The ox and the donkey are two different kinds of animals.
     The Christian is born of the Spirit - The unbeliever of the
     world.
2.  Because of their different leg lengths, the ox and the donkey
     walk differently with their
     strides and paces.
     The Christians walk in life is different than the unbeliever and
     they are continually out of step.
3.  The ox is much stronger than the donkey.
     The Christian has the Holy Spirit with in them which makes
     them the stronger.
4.  The ox and donkey think, act, and work differently.
     The thoughts and actions of the Christian are completely
     different than the unbeliever.
5.  The donkey eats a certain weed that makes the ox nauseous
     if it eats it.
     The Christian is constantly upset over what the unbeliever
     feeds on. (lusts of the flesh)
6.  The unequal yoke causes the animals to get wounds where
     the yoke rubs them wrongly.
     There will be continual friction between them and some of the
     wounds never go away
7.   The unequal yoke makes the furrow crooked rather than
      straight, causing the plowman
       to work extra hard to keep the plow and animals in line.
      Regardless of how hard they try they just can't keep the
      marriage on a straight course.

So if you just marry to please the flesh then you will reap the rewards of sowing to the flesh.  In most cases what happens is that the unbeliever causes the Christian to fall and some never recover.  I know you think you will convert them but in 9 out of 10 cases it does not happen.  You say you're in love.  No you're probably in lust.  Who knows best you or God?

Jesus said, Luke 6:46 "Why do you call me, `Lord, Lord,' and do not do what I say?"
 
 

We live in a society today that recognizes couples living together as being married.  The law provides tax exemptions and many other benefits without a certificate the same as those with one.  Corporations provide insurance and death benefits to their live-ins, even if both are the same sex.  So does this make you married in the eyes of God?

Some people have argued that living together is the best preparation for marriage. They reason that cohabiting gives them a trial period, to see if they are compatible. However, statistics show that people who live together before they get married have a much higher divorce rate than those who don’t. If someone doesn’t respect the commitment to another before marriage, why would he respect the commitment after marriage?

A father once told his son that he was displeased that he was living with his girlfriend. His son said, "Dad, what difference does a marriage license make? It’s just a piece of paper." His father went over to the filing cabinet and pulled out his will. He said, "Son, in my will I have left all my earthly possessions to you when I die." Then the father tore up the will. His son, watching in horror, said, "Dad, what are you doing? Are you leaving me out of your will just because I’m living with my girlfriend without getting married?" His father replied, "Don’t worry, son. It’s just a piece of paper."

That marriage license is not just a "piece of paper." The license is the legally written contract, proving that you have committed yourselves together in marriage.  Marriage is a covenant made 1) before God, 2) to each other,  God says that He witnesses the covenant that a couple makes when they get married. "The Lord has been a witness between you and the wife of your youth…(who) is your companion and your wife by covenant" (Malachi 2:14). A covenant is a contract, agreed upon by two parties.  It is a commitment that has a beginning point, and consequences for breaking it.

Hebrews 13:4 says, "Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge." "Fornication" is when a single person has sex without being married, while "adultery" is a married person having sex with someone who is not the spouse. If "living together" (having sex) made a person married, then there would be no sin of "fornication." God says He will judge those who defile the marriage bed by living together.

Consider This:

The woman at Jacob’s well told Jesus, "I have no husband." Jesus replied, "You have well said, 'I have no husband'; for you have had five husbands, and the one whom you now have is not your husband. What you have said is quite true." (John 4:17-18). If living together made her married, Jesus would have said, "The man you are now living with is your sixth husband." Instead, He did not recognize them as being married even though they were living together.

Here's a question for you.  If you have no marriage certificate what do you do when you want to get a divorce?  Of course you will say 'Just stop living together', Right?  Then why does the Bible say that under certain conditions you may obtain a 'decree' (written declar- ation) of divorce?

Do you both claim to be Christians?  Whose idea is it the most that you just live together?  Who knows more about what God says?  Is there other reasons you are not getting a marriage certificate?  Maybe financial reasons.  Hmm!  "for the love of money is the root of all evil".  If you say you are married by just living together then you should not be collecting benefits that you would lose if you had a certificate should you?  Either you are married or your not.  You can't have it both ways.

If you have children out of this unholy wedlock what are they called?  HINT - Begins with a 'B'.

Just admit it.  You are not married in the eyes of God and you are committing fornication.  Once saved always saved; Don't bet on it.  Check out the scriptures on fornication.

One more thing.  If you do decide to marry.  Take a look at what God has to say about who you should marry.  Go to Fornication Page