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In today's culture, we all experience transition and transformation simultaneously...
This is all part of growth and development, as well as the healing process.
We all experience being born, this can be a beautiful or ugly birth process, depending on the circumstances (drugs, trauma,
attitude, readiness, malnourishment, etc.,...) and we all remember it until we are about 3-5 years old, which molds a lot
of our early development, as children.
We all experience childhood, whether it is happy, sad or uneventful, its memory activates all our senses - remembering
a sweet smell, a soft touch, a bitter taste, a scary sight, or a loud song - and, can stay with us until the day we die, from
that memory.
We all experience puberty, an inevitable 'Rite of Passage', experiencing our bodily functions concerning our gender - in
our families and in society - a time when we are inundated by elders proclaiming their experiences and opinions of how we
should travel this road, negatively or positively.
We all experience the CHOICES associated with adulthood: more education; marraige or partnership; career; creating a family;
and, Responsibility. Some of these choices are made by others for us, if we choose to be victims of our circumstances - Some
of these choices are made because we are running away from our previous circumstances, and there's no turning back - Some
of these choices are made with thoughtful consideration to the long-term consequences.
We all experience relationships associated with different stages of our lifetimes: school, work, family, neighbors, teachers,
clergy, and friends. With some of these relationships, we experience loss, drama and dis-ease. With others we experience joy,
celebration and miracles. No one is safeguarded from being betrayed, abandoned or wounded from "somebody" in their lives.
These are all things that CO-CREATE our Life and how we chose to live it, most especially with other beings
- human, animal, nature or spiritual...
We will all experience Death and its beauty as the ultimate transformation back to the Creator or starting a new life,
if that's your belief.
Most of us have experienced the afore mentioned, alone or unassisted, sometimes mis-directed or steered completely off
track - leading to processing it simply by hiding or burying it deep within our psyche, subtly affecting our lives and personal
interactions with the world around us. Even more of us chose to medicate the problem away with prescriptions, alcohol or illegal
drugs - masking the process to bite you in the butt later, when and if you are sober.
Very few of us feel an earned presence or ability to hold ourselves in enough regard and strong enough NOT to compromise
ourselves for survival, success or affection. Self-esteem is an overly used phrase, but a highly necessary frame of mind to
achieve balance as a human-being. Without it, we create chaos, drama and trauma to ourselves and others. With it, we co-Create
harmony, balance and peace.
Most of our discontent stems from our inability to appreciate what we already have. Without gratitude, we become trapped
in an endless cycle of wishing and wanting life to be different. When we learn the art of Gratitude, counting our many blessings,
even life's simplest pleasures fill us with satisfaction and delight. Gratitude is a Choice, a self-generated gift we can
give ourselves everyday.
Finding, discovering by study or experiment, the gifts of your Shadow, or dark side, containing all the parts
of ourselves that we resist, dislike, and try to hide. When we receive, perceive and accept the necessity of these 'gifts'
for human interaction, our self-love is restored as the parts of us we once believed to be our deepest flaws, are revealed
as valuable assets.
Remember the Butterfly...
The butterfly starts by crawling around for months as a lowly caterpillar. Then it hibernates for months in its dark
cocoon. But, it finally emerges with glorious freedom of movement and magnificence in color.
Who would have guessed that an earthbound caterpillar would someday fly so high or that out of a drab cocoon could
come such vibrant colors?
Re-CREATE...
Caterpillar: Remember the happy times, and your role in those emotions - write down at least 3 times that you experienced
happiness.
Cocoon: Reflect upon emotionally charged feelings, again considering your role - write down at least 3 of your worst moments.
Reframe your experiences, comparing each of them individually.
Butterfly: Re-Connect to your positive, healing strengths and loves !
Transformation
When was the last time you explored the process?
Did your process entail co-creating (your perception) of who you were, who you are now and who you aspire to be?
PAST: Who were you? What childhood stories were impressed upon you?
What were your favorite games? What did you treasure in your youth?
PRESENT: Who are you? What is enshrined on your mantle, hung from your rear-view mirror,
or taped on your frig? What lies forgotten in the basement, attic or storage?
What's secreted in a hidden place?
FUTURE: Who do you aspire to be? What new adventures do you envision?
What face do you hope to see in the mirror? What's set upon your metaphoric alter, emblazoned on your
bumper, or pursued in your fantasies?
Transformation is a change in Nature, in form, in appearance, or character.
Create Life by transforming the energy gained through rest into renewed life force, new creations, and new visions...
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