'Marry loving, productive women.' (Abu Dawud 2050, An-Nasaai' 3229, Ibn Hibbaan 4028, & Ahmad 3/158-245)

It also contains many other benefits. As for a man marrying more than one wife out of pride and competitiveness, it is something which falls into the category of waste, which is not permitted. Allaah, the Most High says:

'Waste not by extravagance, certainly He (Allaah) likes not Al-Musrifun (those who waste by extravagance).' (Al-'Araaf 7:31)

As for her, I advise her not to get angry at your thoughts of marriage, nor at your marriage, because this is something which Allaah has made permissable for you and because you have an excuse in this situation. And the situation which has befallen her is a calamity over which she should be patient. She should ask Allaah for forgiveness and it might be a cause of her sins being remitted and the raising of her status before Allaah, Most High. And Allaah knows best.

Permission to marry more than one wife was not specially for our Prophet Muhammad Salallaahu alayhi wasallam. For Ya’qub, upon him be peace, had two wives and Sulaiman, the son of Dawud, may the peace of Allaah be upon both of them, collected ninety-nine wives and he visited (i.e. has sexual intercourse with) all of them in one night, in the hope that Allaah would bless him with a son from every one of them, who would fight in Allaah’s cause.

This is not something new in the law, nor does it oppose common sense, nor the requirements of the Fitrah; indeed wisdom necessitates it. For women are more in number than men, as censuses continually prove, a man may possess so much physical strength that he needs more than one wife, in order that he may be able to indulge his desires in a permissible way, rather than in a prohibited way. Otherwise he will be forced to repress his desires; or the women may be suffering from some illness, something may prevent him from fulfilling his needs, such as menstruation or postnatal bleeding, or anything else that prevents a man from fulfilling his desires with her. So he may need another wife with whom he may fulfill his desires, rather than repressing them or committing indecency.

Since plurality of wives is permissible and justified, logically, in accordance with the Fitrah and the Islamic law, and since the Prophets of old used to practice it – indeed it could be said to be obligatory in cases of necessity or need sometimes – then it is not surprising that our Prophet, Muhammad Salallaahu alayhi wasallam did so.

There are other reasons that he married a number of women which have been mentioned by the scholars, such as strengthening the ties between him and some of the Arab tribes – so that perhaps it may result in some strength for Islaam and aid in its spread through increasing harmony, affirming ties of love and brotherhood. It could have been to give shelter and solace to widows that which they had lost, for in that is freedom from worry and relief from hardship. The Islamic law has prescribed the way for the community to help those who lose their husbands Jihad and the like; there is also the hope of increasing the numbers of the population and it helps those who wish to spread the religion.

The need for it is not only to satisfy desire, as is proved by the fact that the Prophet Salallaahu alayhi wasallam did not marry virgins or young women except ‘Aishah, may Allaah be pleased with her – the rest of his wives were matrons. If he had been driven by desire and physical lust to marry a number of women, he would have chosen young virgins in order to satisfy his lust, especially after he had migrated, the lands had been liberated and the Islamic State established. Then the power of the Muslims was firm and their strength increased, and every family desired that he should marry their daughters – but he did not do so. He only married for noble purposes and high considerations, which are clear to those who have studied the circumstances surrounding each of his marriages. If he had been a man given to base passions, it would be known from his Seerah (biography) to be the case when he was young and strong. But that was when he had only one wife, his noble spouse, Khadijah bint Khuwailid, may Allaah be pleased with her, who was older than him. If that were the case, he would have been known for behaving unjustly with his wives, who were of different ages and degrees of beauty. But in fact, he was not known except for his absolute righteousness and honesty in his personal behaviors and chastity, as both a young and old man. All of this goes to show his decency and high moral character and his integrity in all his affairs, so that he was acknowledged as such even by his enemies.

As for being just with respect to love and sexual relations, this is not within ones ability. This is what is being referred to in this verse;

''You will never be able to do perfect justice between your wives even if it is your ardent desire .” an-Nisa : 129

In a hadeeth about the Prophet (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam), Aisha [ may Allah be Pleased with her] stated,

''The Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ‘alaihi-wasallam) used to divide his time between his wives and he was fair. He used to say. ‘ O Allah, that is my division with respect to what I have control over. Do not blame me for what You control and over which I have no control.’ ‘’

This was recorded by Abu Dawud, al- Tirmidhi, al- Nasai, Ibn Majah. It is graded Sahih by ibn Hibban and al- Haakim.