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Ruby D. Loftus: e-mail
b-'51', m-'7/7/79', w-'1/24/98', 2 sons '80' & '82'; I am a Christian. At the time of my husband's death, I had taught Sunday school for almost 18 years. I am not in any ministry right now, but am seeking what the Lord wants me to do. I have been doing a lot of writing and have a book in mind to start. Also, my husband wrote many poems and his story: "The Joys of Motherhood by a Father" that I must put in print. My husband was a house-husband for 14 years of our 18-year marriage. My oldest son has an "EMO" band and has written all the songs they sing. These songs are an alternative to what secular bands are playing. In 1999, he wrote a song about his Dad, had it recorded, and a local Christian radio station played it for 6 months. My youngest son has been accepted by a Christian College and believes that the Lord has directed him to go into Youth ministry; he also hopes to be a teacher of either drama or history. I enjoy genealogy research, crocheting, reading, walking, gardening, surfing the web, and decorating. I am moving forward and praying that the Lord will send someone special with whom I can share the rest of my life. Jim and I had a very special relationship and I miss it very much. I am not looking forward to the empty nest syndrome. My husband was supposed to be here for that and of course cancer got in the way. He is in a better place than we are. He is healed - no more pain. In his poem he wrote in 1991, "Just Beyond the Sunset,": 'I'll be just beyond the sunset waiting for you to be with Jesus and me'. My husband was the head usher at our church and the worship leader said of him in worship service the next day after he died, "When we reach the gates of heaven, Jim will be there with his warm smile and firm hand shake welcoming us there". I am looking forward to that day when I can join him in heaven. I have a peace in my heart that passes all understanding, for God has been my strength, sustaining me, uplifting me, standing beside me, and sometimes carrying me when I just didn't have the strength to go on. He has been ever faithful and constant. God speaks to us in our joy but shouts to us in our pain" and He had to shout to me to let me know that He was still beside me, that He never left me. Thank you so much for creating this site for the widowed Christians.

Lucy: e-mail
b-'37', m-'59'. w-'5/02' (husband of 42 years had bone marrow failure for 2 years and died of acute leukemia.) 2 adult children '60', '63', 5 grandchildren (ages '83'-'99'), 3rd grade teacher, Christian lay ministry, free lance writer, write Gospel, praise music, enjoy house plants, reading, art and music.