THE DABDWA STORY
One day I was talking on my cell with a very good friend of mine and as she was speaking I was thinking,
"Oh here we go again. We have been over this a gazillion times. I don't agree with you, I don't feel like
fighting with you. I've told you what I thought about this before, you didn't listen then, so really what is the point
in disagreeing with you again?".
I just patiently listened (well actually I zoned out for a while) and waited for an opportunity to change
the subject (once the chatter stopped) but a lot of wasted minutes went by as I waited for my turn!
I was stuck in traffic, so after I hung up I had plenty of time to think. All of a sudden I caught
myself chanting in my head in a sing song sort of way, "Don't agree, don't wanna argue; don't agree don't wanna argue" over
and over and over. You know, the way you do at the end of the day, when you are tired and bored and a little bit distracted....
Then I thought, maybe I should shorten this like a text message. My kids are always saying, "IDK"
when I ask them something, so maybe I should start talking in text. (I know I am skipping ahead here - but my kids HATED
it, when I told them how I was going to try to get this new word in the next cell phone commercial.)
Once I had the concept, I couldn't stop thinking of fun ways to use this new word/acronym. You can
say it out loud, text it, put it in an email or just think it to yourself while smirking.
It can be used openly among friends to avoid arguments. You can say it to yourself or under your breath
instead of getting angry at your coworkers/boss/nosy neighbors.
Or you can be a little snarky and use it with attitude as a substitute for "Talk to the Hand"
when you are feeling particularly cranky.
It is a variation on the whole "smile and nod" behavior that passive/aggressive people use. In fact,
passive/aggressive people should try saying DABDWA out
loud once in a while to help them become a smidge more assertive (like the rest of us normal people).
Please feel free to click on the links to the left, see how DABDWA
can be used and don't forget to add your own stories!
Enjoy!!
