Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Happy Family Day
10:09 pm est
Today is my Dad's Birthday and the day that we met Anant one year ago at BSSK. So much has changed! Some things are the
same. As I watched him eat Lunch (mess!) I thought, yeah, still very messy. But its not from lack of skill now, its because
he's "cooking". Making chapati, eggs, chopping onions etc. Wonder where he learns that? I'm uploading a picture of him today
at Lunch. His language skills are excellent. He talks all the time. Recently he has figured out the difference between girls
and boys. A few weeks ago he called everyone girls. Now, we'll be in the car and he'll be talking to me saying "Aunt Premila
is a girl?", "Joey is a boy". Half asking and half making a statement. He wants me to confirm that he is understanding this
now. So cute. Also the past few months Anant would ask questions about his friends like "what's _____'s Momma's name?" Even
a friend who came to do some work on the house when I talked about Nelson coming to fix some things here he said "what's Mr.
Nelson's Momma's name". So cute how he thinks aobut others this way. Also lately he projects things on others that he is experiencing.
Today he was dry all day after Bible study. Then, Mommy's fault for not toileting him before we left, on the way home at 9pm
tonight he wet his underwear. He said "Sophie is in her bed crying because she pee-peed in her underwear...it was an accident".
"Suah is watching Lilo with her Momma".
I digressed. We had a Bible study today about being thankful and not forgetting what God has done in the past. I've given
in to complaining and forgetting that God is good after my Mom's cancer had come back. But, just looking at Anant should remind
me of how God has been so good to us, giving us more than we could ask or imagine. What a sweet boy. Then, these past months
there have been many who have offered and watched Anant while I go to and from Delaware.
I did let Anant see his Lilo and Stitch movie today after his nap. He LOVES this movie. It has adoption themes through
it and it was given to us by Anant's Aunt Deborah. My favorite quote is said by the alien Stitch "This is my family, its little
and its broken, but its good, yeah, its good". Isn't that that the way our families are? There are always "issues".
We had an Indian Dinner and talked with Anant about those first days. How he wouldn't come to me and was afraid of me.
What a change. He is now attached to my hip. Of course I do spend a lot of time with him. We ended up going out and buying
another car (Rob was rear ended and the geo prism was totalled). We got a Toyota Sienna. The right one that was in our price
range came up. It had just come into the dealership and hadn't been checked or detailed yet but Michelle at Car Vision got
it done (we actually had to wait for a little while while the service dept finished an allignment on it). We ate pop corn,
hot chocolate and played tag while we waited. Anant particularly liked sitting in a Mercedes. It was so cute. He had a blast
and after all the running he did I hope he will sleep well tonight. He loved the open space in the dealership for running.
Anant understands that "Daddy's car" has too many boo-boos so we had to get another car. The geo has been named by Anant as
Rob's car and the Rav 4 is Anant's car. He sometimes gets upset if he has to ride in the geo.
So, after about 2 1/2 hours and 1 1/2 hours past Anant's bedtime we got home. There are currently 4 cars that we have
at our house. The rental from the insurance company of the people who hit Rob, the geo (not for long it will be gone tomorrow),
the Rav and the Sienna! Craziness!
Saturday, January 24, 2009
1:24 pm est
No, we haven't started to drink. Anant wore his first pair of "big boy" underwear and he was dry all morning! This past
week I bought him gummy bears at the store and I'm not sure if that is it or if he is just ready but he has been having dry
diapers except when at school or sleeping. So we made a fuss this morning and went to target and bought the big boy underwear.
YAY! You'll see the cute pics. He was so proud. We put a pull up on him before nap but when we are home we sure will keep
up the underwear thing.
This past week he was at my job and I was clocking out. He saw the bathroom and started to pull down his pants and say
"I have to go pee-pee". And I held him up on the toilet and he went.
That is the big news for now.
Wednesday, January 7, 2009
1:43 pm est
Today was the big day. Anant became officially our son. Of course we felt that he was already but this was final. I tried
to explain this to Anant but not sure if he was getting it. We were telling him that today was an important day and that the
judge would say that he is ours forever and part of our family.
The weather was nasty but we didn't have as hard of a time getting there as our lawyer (what is usually a 1/2
hour drive was 1 1/2!), but everything got done. The judge (Ott) had both of us go up front separately and swear in.
Asking us if we agree to take on all the rights and responsibilities as parents. He clarified his name with us (Thomas Anant
Blake) and then that was it. We took pictures as well and will be able to get his birth certificate (US) in a few weeks.
We then went to a local indian restaurant to celebrate. In the car on the way to the court I said something about Indian
food and Anant said "spicy, me no like it". Rats!!! Rob was laughing. I thought, ok... today is the day our adoption is final
of our Indian son and he says flat out that he doesn't like Indian food. I hope it will not be 2 against one now. I really
like my Indian food. He did like the dal and rice though and recently he seems to have taken to chapati (which he grew up
eating but until recently here hadn't really had much). I've been making chapati a lot. Eating it with pickle and yogurt (lime-ginger
is my favorite so far). I digress.
Anyway. Check out the pics with the judge and the lawyer.
Saturday, January 3, 2009
Happy New Year
11:05 pm est
Happy New Year everyone! Well, our tentative court date did not materialize. The judge was booked up that day. Our lawyer
was calling and calling the court. Rob even called our State Rep. who called the court on our behalf and couldn't get it in
before the end of the year. Would have been nice to get it finalized and get the tax credit and just to have it finalized
period. Not just be guardians in the eyes of the law. But, we do now have a date and a time which is more definate. So, this
Wednesday we will be at our hearing to be legally Anant's parents in the eyes of the law in the US. Anant will also become
a citizen but we will need to get a certificate of citizenship to have proof that he is afterwards.Anant does so many cute
things I can never recall them here. Oh, one thing that's funny is that Rob's Dad and his wife Janie got Anant this candy
that is shaped like dog bones and it had a cute little dog attached. Well, Anant asks for bones all the time. He walks up
to us and smiles cutely and says "bone". Anyone hearing would have to laugh. We really don't give our son dog bones, it was
candy bones. Anant calls me at work (he tells Dad to call Momma at work to tell me things) and says "Dadda gave me a bone".
I repeat this on my cell phone at work thinking "gee, I hope no-one hears me say this! When Anant is hungry he says "Bone,
Anant said a few weeks ago that Dadda couldn't do the motions for "Away in a Manger". Only when he gets bigger. I think
maybe he hears us saying he can't do something until he gets bigger so when we say we can't do something he'll add "when he
gets bigger". So cute.
This week he was home with Daddy playing with his new toy food and he was putting food aside for Momma who was at work.
Well, I could say lots more now but I'm tired.
Thursday, December 25, 2008
God is So Good
8:37 pm est
We spent our first Christmas with our little boy given to us by God. We have been so blessed to have Anant this Christmas.
Our best gift ever has been our son, other than each other.
Sorry for the silence lately. We have been dealing with the news that my Mom has metastatic breast cancer and things
have been a little crazy. We are hoping and praying that with treatment she will have less pain and go into remission.
Last night we watched Lilo and Stitch, a great movie with some adoption/family themes. Anant liked it and is now sleeping
with his stuffed Stitch that Aunt Deborah gave him. He loved being with Nana and Aunt Deborah. They made a gingerbread house
together this afternoon while I cooked Dinner.
Anant's favorite songs lately have been: Read your Bible pray every day and you'll grow, grow, grow then...don't read
your Bible forget to pray then you'll shrink, shrink, shrink. And he falls on the floor with the latter song. He's also singing
Away in a Manger and doing motions with this song too. So cute!
Last night Anant had one of his worst nights since we resolved the bedtime screaming/crying. We think that since Nana
and Aunt Deborah were here he didn't want to go to bed but wanted to be with them.
Anant liked his tools that Grandma Kris gave him. But he seems to think that they are surgery tools. You'll see pics
on our flickr site of him drilling into our heads. Then tonight I told him that I needed to cut my nails and he went and got
his pliers. He was going to cut them for me.
Anant continues to be a "supervisor" telling friends and family what they should and shouldn't do...or letting them know
that they are wrong about something. Lately he has been telling me not to go outside because its "cold outside".
We have a tentative hearing for the finalization of our Adoption of Anant on Dec 31! I've sent off my
third CARA report and note to BSSK letting them know how Anant is doing.
Well, I'm tired, better go. Just wanted to say something on Christmas about how grateful and blessed that we are.
Our Adoption Process of Anant
- April 9, 2006 Anant is born in Aurangabad, India
- Spring?, 2006 Mom and Dad meet with a social worker about India adoption and become discouraged that
the road can be long and difficult
- March 15-30, 2007 Mom and Dad visit India
- April 23, 2007 Dad inquires of Holt about India adoption
- May 10, 2007 application for home study (report by local social worker with all kinds of
personal information about us-basically a report about our family) started
- July 27, 2007 joined waiting child program with Holt
- August 9, 2007 Home Study approved by Holt International Childrens Services in Eugene, OR
- August 27, 2007 New Waiting Child listing sent out with guess who in it
- September 8, 2007 fingerprinted in Center City Philadelphia for filing of I600A (US approval for us
to adopt-finalized in India)
- September 13, 2007 Waiting Child Committee accepts us as Anant's parents!
- September 22, 2007 completed Dossier (Stack of official papers about us that go to India) sent
- September 26, 2007 I600A approval from US Gov-fingerprints cleared.
- September 27, 2007 Anant's acceptance papers sent to Holt
- October 12, 2007 Paperwork sent to BSSK (the childcare agency in India where Anant lives) for India process to begin!
- October 20, 2007 BSSK has looked over our papers and filed for No Objection Status with the Indian government
- December 3, 2007 Holt called to tell us we have our No Objection Certificate (actually dated 11/27/07-see post regarding
the importance of this date on 12/9/07). This will now be filed in the local (Pune, Maharastra) court for guardianship.
- December 6, 2007 Received word that our I600A approval has indeed reached New Delhi (this is needed in order to bring
Anant home. The other part of this is showing up with him at the US Embassy in New Delhi to do the I600 and complete his visa
with a medical evaluation! Now it will be legal for us to bring him home.
- January 18,2008 We are notified of receiving Verbal Gaurdianship of Anant.
- January 30, 2008 We receive Written Gaurdianship of Anant Blake. It also happens to be Rob's Father's
- February 22, 2008 leave for India
- February 25, 2008 meet and take home Thomas Anant Blake (This happens to be Mary's Dad's Birthday)
- February 29, 2008 leave India
- March 1, 2008 home!!! YAY.
- April 29, 2008 Alien Registration Card Received
- August 1, 2008 Applied for SS#/Card (should have done this sooner)
- August 8, 2008 SS#/Card Received
Anant's words: pretty much said in this order
Out (referring to Derby to get out of the kitchen and stop eating his food! You can tell we say this a lot)
Hot (means hot and cold and blows on the food whether hot or cold)
Anant (pronounced Ana)
Makes a car sound
Makes a dog sound (I'm told by the speech therapist that these count! So I'm counting them)
Strawberry (Pronounced Sraugh-not sure whether to count this or not?)
Mouth (sounds like mou)
Please Momma 4/28/08
Choo choo (train sound)
Makes a monkey noise
5/08: Sock, Shoe, Derby, Dog, Bath, Bag, Door, Fork, Spoon, Bath, Reina, Dance, Cry, Deep, Wide, Bubbles, Bird, Nana,
Bus, Eat, Milk, Bus, Nana, Door, Nathaniel (pronounced Nuh), Chop (chop Derby's food), Ear, Open, Hand, Off, On, Cheese, Girl,
Fish, Josh, chair, teeth, know (song), car, bucket, Gritts, Moon, J.J. (our neighbor's name), Sooby (as in Scooby-Doo, sounds
like scoo), Cold, Wet, Broccoli, Close, Happy, Poo-Poo, Pee Pee, Plane, Come, Cut, Church, Natalie (sounds like Na), Melon,
1,2,5 (yes, in that order), Spoon, Fork, Scoop
6/08: Vacuum, Peas, Bib, Lid, Sky, Star, Big, Money, Baby, Nana, Pool. Too many words to keep up with now.