LAMENT AND EULOGY
for
Edward P.H. Kern (1925-2004)
Edward, your combination of absence and presence
has been carried to uncomfortable extremes.
Here are your blue towels hanging in my bathroom
and there’s the box of ashes on the nightstand
next to your side of the bed.
Every day I think of things I want to tell you;
your voice, with its distinctive accent,
echoes every moment in my head.
Waking, I reach over and feel your arms around me—
how can you possibly be dead?
Edward, everyone who knew you was shocked by your sudden
Demise. At the memorial from which I was excluded,
Weeping women crowded around the widow
And all the men said you were their best friend.
Really, sweetheart, for a shy fellow you
Delighted without half trying—until the end.
Keeping you alive in my heart is
Easy—it’s my own life that hurts.
Rest knowing your ashes float now on the ocean off
Nantucket where you are always, forever, a small boy playing.