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Acceptance

Acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation -- some fact of my life, unacceptable to me; and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God's world by mistake; unless I accept life completely on life's terms, I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes.

Alcoholics Anonymous


The 15 Questions

This series of questions may help you determine if you are a compulsive overeater.

  1. Do you eat when you're not hungry?
  2. Do you go on eating binges for no apparent reason?
  3. Do you have feelings of guilt and remorse after overeating?
  4. Do you give too much time and thought to food?
  5. Do you look forward with pleasure and anticipation to the time when you can eat alone?
  6. Do you plan these secret binges ahead of time?
  7. Do you eat sensibly before others and make up for it alone?
  8. Is your weight affecting the way you live your life?
  9. Have you tried to diet for a week (or longer), only to fall short of your goal?
  10. Do you resent others telling you to "use a little willpower" to stop overeating?
  11. Despite evidence to the contrary, have you continued to assert that you can diet "on your own" whenever you wish?
  12. Do you crave to eat at a definite time, day or night, other than mealtime?
  13. Do you eat to escape from worries or trouble?
  14. Have you ever been treated for obesity or a food-related condition?
  15. Does your eating behavior make you or others unhappy?

Have you answered yes to three or more of these questions? If so, it is probable that you have or are well on your way to having a compulsive overeating problem. We have found that the way to arrest this progressive disease is to practice the Twelve-Step recovery program of Overeaters Anonymous.


The OA Preamble

Overeaters Anonymous is a fellowship of individuals who, through shared experience, strength and hope, are recovering from compulsive overeating. We welcome everyone who wants to stop eating compulsively. There are no dues or fees for members; we are self-supporting through our own contributions, neither soliciting nor accepting outside donations. OA is not affiliated with any public or private organization, political movement, ideology or religious doctrine; we take no position on outside issues. Our primary purpose is to abstain from compulsive overeating and to carry this message of recovery to those who still suffer.


The 12 Steps of Overeaters Anonymous

  1. We admitted we were powerless over food — that our lives had become unmanageable.
  2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
  3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
  4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
  5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
  6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
  7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
  8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
  9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
  10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
  11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with Godas we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
  12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps, we tried to carry this message to compulsive overeaters and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

Permission to use the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous for adaptation granted by AA World Services, Inc.


The 12 Traditions of Overeaters Anonymous

  1. Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon OA unity.
  2. For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority — a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern.
  3. The only requirement for OA membership is a desire to stop eating compulsively.
  4. Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or OA as a whole.
  5. Each group has but one primary purpose — to carry its message to the compulsive overeater who still suffers.
  6. An OA group ought never endorse, finance or lend the OA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary purpose.
  7. Every OA group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.
  8. Overeaters Anonymous should remain forever non-professional, but our service centers may employ special workers.
  9. OA, as such, ought never be organized; but we may create service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve.
  10. Overeaters Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the OA name ought never be drawn into public controversy.
  11. Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, films, television and other public media of communication.
  12. Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all these Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.

Permission to use the 12 Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous for adaptation granted by AA World Services, Inc.


The 12 Concepts of OA Service

  1. The ultimate responsibility and authority for OA world services reside in the collective conscience of our whole Fellowship.
  2. The OA groups have delegated to the World Service Business Conference the active maintenance of our world services; thus, the World Service Business Conference is the voice, authority and effective conscience of OA as a whole.
  3. The right of decision, based on trust, makes effective leadership possible.
  4. The right of participation ensures equality of opportunity for all in the decision-making process.
  5. Individuals have the right of appeal and petition in order to ensure that their opinions and personal grievances will be carefully considered.
  6. The World Service Business Conference has entrusted the Board of Trustees with the primary responsibility for the administration of Overeaters Anonymous.
  7. The Board of Trustees has legal rights and responsibilities accorded to them by OA Bylaws, Subpart A; the rights and responsibilities of the World Service Business Conference are accorded to it by Tradition and by OA Bylaws, Subpart B.
  8. The Board of Trustees has delegated to its Executive Committee the responsibility to administer the OA World Service Office.
  9. Able, trusted servants, together with sound and appropriate methods of choosing them, are indispensable for effective functioning at all service levels.
  10. Service responsibility is balanced by carefully defined service authority; therefore, duplication of efforts is avoided.
  11. Trustee administration of the World Service Office should always be assisted by the best standing committees, executives, staffs and consultants.
  12. The spiritual foundation for OA service ensures that:
a) no OA committee or service body shall ever become the seat of perilous wealth or power;

b) sufficient operating funds, plus an ample reserve, shall be OA's prudent financial principle;

c) no OA member shall ever be placed in a position of unqualified authority;

d) all important decisions shall be reached by discussion, vote and, whenever possible, by substantial unanimity;

e) no service action shall ever be personally punitive or an incitement to public controversy; and

f) no OA service committee or service board shall ever perform acts of government, and each shall always remain democratic in thought and action.


The Tools of Recovery

In working Overeaters Anonymous' Twelve-Step program of recovery from compulsive overeating, we have found a number of tools to assist us in our recovery. We use them regularly to help us achieve and maintain abstinence. The eight tools of OA are:
  1. A plan of eating
  2. Sponsorship
  3. Meetings
  4. Telephone
  5. Writing
  6. Literature
  7. Anonymity
  8. Service
In Overeaters Anonymous (OA), abstinence is "the action of refraining from compulsive eating." Many of us have found that we cannot abstain from compulsive eating unless we use some or all of OA's eight tools of recovery.


The OA Promise

I put my hand in yours, and together we can do what we could never do alone. No longer is there a sense of hopelessness, no longer must we each depend upon our own unsteady willpower. We are all together now, reaching out our hands for power and strength greater than ours, and as we join hands, we find love and understanding beyond our wildest dreams.

The Promises

  1. If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through.
  2. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness.
  3. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.
  4. We will comprehend the word serenity, and we will know peace.
  5. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others.
  6. That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear.
  7. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows.
  8. Self-seeking will slip away.
  9. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change.
  10. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us.
  11. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us.
  12. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.
Are these extravagant promises? We think not. They are being fulfilled among us-sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. They will always materialize if we work for them.

Alcoholics Anonymous


The OA Responsibility Pledge

Always to extend the hand and heart of OA to all who share my compulsion; for this, I am responsible.


The Third Step Prayer

God, I offer myself to thee;to build with me and to do with me as Thou wilt. Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those I would help of Thy power, Thy love, and Thy way of life. May I do Thy will always!

Alcoholics Anonymous


The Seventh Step Prayer

My creator, I am now willing that you should have all of me, good and bad. I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character which stands in the way of my usefulness to you and my fellows. Grant me strength, as I go out from here, to do your bidding. Amen.

Alcoholics Anonymous


The Serenity Prayer

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, and the Wisdom to know the difference... living one day at a time; enjoying one moment at a time; accepting hardship as the pathway to peace... taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it... trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will...that I may be reasonably happy in this life, and supremely happy with Him forever in the next. Amen.

Reinhold Niebuhr


Program Slogans

Act as if.

ACTION: Any Change To Improve Our Nature

A new day can begin at any time.

Be willing to go to any lengths.

BIG BOOK: Believing In God Beats Our Old Knowledge

DENIAL: Don't Even Notice I Am Lying

Easy Does It.

EGO: Edging God Out

FEAR: Face Everything And Recover

FINE: Frustrated, Insecure, Neurotic, & Emotional

GOD: Good Orderly Direction

HALT: (don't get too) Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired

HOPE: Happy Our Program Exists

HOW: Honesty, Openness, Willingness

I can't. God can. I think I'll let Him.

Just for Today.

Keep it simple.

KISS: Keep It Simple Sweetheart (Stupid)

Let go. Let God.

Live and Let Live.

Live in the solution, not the problem.

Nothing tastes as good as abstinence feels.

NUTS: Not Using The Steps

OA is a program of action.

One Day at a Time.

Pray for the willingness to be willing.

PROGRAM: People Relying On God Relaying A Message

SLIP: Sobriety Losing Its Priority

SPONSOR: Sober Person Offering Newcomers Suggestions On Recovery

STEPS: Solutions To Every Problem Sober

The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop eating compulsively.

The Three A's: Awareness, Acceptance, Action.

This is a simple program but it is not easy.

Together we can do what we could never do alone.

We claim spiritual progress, not perfection.


Last updated: April 26, 2008

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